West Coast Couples Erotic Photographer

Are you ready to try couples erotic photography?

Knowing the difference between erotic and boudoir is a good place to start.

When working with the sensitive nature of human vulnerabilities in a boudoir shoot, I as a boudoir photographer need to be very aware of you and your needs to feel safe in your choices and surroundings. 

If you have come to this page this tells me you are curious about exploring the options for a session with your partner. My biggest goal here is to provide you with a better understanding of what you should be asking a photographer and what your rights are.

In this country photographers and filmmakers need to follow a federal code to protect the client and themselves. The basis of this federal code was created to prevent underage adult filming and human trafficking.  While that is still prevalent, the artists I know follow this for consent purposes as well during the nude photo shoot.  When you read the code there are aspects that seem rather vague. As a photographer, woman and sexual assault survivor I take all of this very seriously. I never want you to feel like you have lost your voice or control during this intimate photo shoot. Through intensive workshops and discussions with legal professionals, I have defined how our studio to create the definition of boudoir vs erotic. 

One line between boudoir and erotic photography is about your pants. Pants on, boudoir. Pants off, erotica. The other line is about kink, and this can be a little bit of a gray area. My main division for kink is restraint. If you are restrained in any way during the photo shoot, our studio labels that as erotic. As I said before, there are a couple of other areas of kink that are going to fall into being an erotic session in our boudoir shoot.  

The above mentioned boundaries is where we start.  Learning more about a an erotic session would require a zoom call that involves all parties who would be participating in the session. This is something like you are ready for, please click on the link to read over some basic requirements of setting up that call with me. 

What is Boudoir Photography and How is it Different for Couples?

Understanding Boudoir in Art

 Boudoir photography is about celebrating the essence of your core self, confidence, and self-love. It provides individuals with a unique opportunity to embrace their bodies and express their sensuality in a safe and empowering environment. The purpose of boudoir in photography goes beyond just capturing alluring images; it serves as a form of self-affirmation and personal empowerment.
For many, participating in a boudoir session can be a transformative experience. It allows individuals to step outside their comfort zones, challenge societal norms regarding beauty, and redefine their self-image. The intimate nature of boudoir  encourages vulnerability, which can lead to a deeper appreciation of oneself.
Additionally, boudoir photography can serve as a meaningful gift for a partner, a way to commemorate a special occasion, or simply as a celebration of one's own journey. Regardless of the reason, the underlying theme remains the same: it’s about embracing your unique beauty and creating lasting memories that reflect your individuality.
Ultimately this intimate photography session is a celebration of the body, mind, and spirit. It empowers individuals to see themselves through a different lens, fostering a sense of pride and confidence that can resonate far beyond the photography session itself. Whether it's the elegance of a simple pose or the daring of a more provocative shot, boudoir photography is an art form that invites everyone to love themselves more fully.

What Makes Couples Boudoir Photography Unique?

 When we then bring another person into the session to create a couples boudoir experience we open up that confidence with our most connected person. We open up the exploring our sexuality with our person. This shared experience not only enhances the intimacy between you two as a couple during the boudoir session, but also allows you to see each other in a new light. As you interact and pose together during the boudoir shoot, laughter and playful banter often replace any initial nerves. The camera captures genuine moments of connection, showcasing their chemistry and the unique bond you share.
The atmosphere becomes charged with energy as you embrace vulnerability during the time in the studio, allowing yourselves to be seen in a way you may not have experienced before. This exploration of intimacy can deepen a relationship, fostering a sense of trust and understanding. This experience highlights not just your physical connection but also the emotional intimacy that defines your partnership.
As they navigate this journey together, they discover new facets of their attraction and affection. The session becomes more than just a photoshoot; it transforms into a celebration of their relationship, empowering them to express their love and desire openly. Ultimately, this couples boudoir experience serves as a beautiful reminder that vulnerability, when shared with someone we trust, can lead to profound personal  growth. 

Benefits of Couples Boudoir Sessions

It provides an opportunity for reflection, collaboration, and creativity. Each phase of the boudoir shoot plays a vital role in shaping not only the outcome but also the experience itself.
During the planning phase, we engage in meaningful conversations to understand your vision and goals. This dialogue fosters a sense of partnership, ensuring that your ideas are woven into the fabric of the session. As you sketch out the details, you'll discuss potential themes and styles that resonate with you, creating a blueprint that feels authentic and exciting.
On the day of capturing, the atmosphere is charged with energy and anticipation. The camera becomes a tool of expression, allowing us to translate your story into visual art. Each click of the shutter captures not just images, but emotions, interactions, and candid moments that reflect your unique narrative. This immersive experience encourages spontaneity and collaboration, as we adapt to the dynamic flow of the day.
Once the session concludes, we transition to the viewing session, where the magic truly unfolds. This moment is about more than just selecting artwork; it's an opportunity for you to reconnect with the experience, to see how your vision has come to life through the lens. Together, we’ll explore the gallery of images, celebrating the moments that resonate most with you and curating a selection that speaks to your heart.
This entire journey nurtures personal growth. It allows you to embrace vulnerability, explore your identity, and appreciate the beauty of collaboration in a sexy way. By engaging deeply in this process, you not only create stunning artwork but also cultivate a richer understanding of yourself and the connections that matter most. Each step—planning, capturing, and viewing—serves as a reminder that art is not just about the final product; it's about the experiences and relationships that shape it along the way.

What are the Different Styles of Erotic Couples Photography?

Exploring Sensual and Intimate Styles for Couples Erotic Boudoir

From soft and delicate poses that evoke a sense of intimacy and vulnerability, to bolder, more provocative compositions that challenge traditional notions of sensuality, the studio aims to cater to a diverse range of preferences. Each session is a collaborative effort, where clients are encouraged to express their desires and comfort levels.
The lighting plays a crucial role in setting the mood; soft, diffused light can create an ethereal quality, highlighting curves and contours, while sharper, more dramatic lighting can add an element of intensity and intrigue. Props and backgrounds are also carefully selected to enhance the overall aesthetic, whether it’s a lush, romantic setting or a more minimalist, modern environment.
Ultimately, the goal of erotic photography is to celebrate the human form and the myriad ways it can be expressed. It’s about capturing emotions, stories, and the unique beauty of each individual. With a respectful and professional approach, the studio creates a safe space where clients can explore their sensuality, whether they prefer something subtle or something more daring. Each photograph becomes a piece of art that reflects not just the body, but the essence of who they are.

Understanding the Aesthetics of Erotic Photography

Collaboration is the heart of any creative endeavor. It's where diverse perspectives and unique experiences come together to spark innovation. I believe that every voice matters, and your input is invaluable in shaping our erotic couples boudoir journey.
As we dive into this process, let's keep communication open and transparent. Feel free to express your thoughts, concerns, and inspirations about the upcoming boudoir session without hesitation. This is a space for exploration, where we can push boundaries and challenge norms while respecting each other's comfort zones.
We can brainstorm ideas for the photo shoot, sketch out concepts, and even experiment with different mediums like makeup. Whether it’s through art, writing, or any other form of expression, the goal is to create something meaningful that resonates with both of us. Remember, there’s no right or wrong here—just the beauty of creation and the joy of discovery.
As we move forward, let’s celebrate each step we take together. Each small victory and every lesson learned along the way are part of our shared experience. I’m excited to see where our collaboration takes us, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to embark on this journey with you. Let’s make something extraordinary! If you are ready to learn more about that collaboration, let's hop on a zoom to get more acquainted. Head over to how to prepare for your zoom call.

Rekindle Intimacy: Boosting Body Confidence in the Bedroom

Start Feeling Closeness with Your Partner and Yourself

For many couples intimacy isn't easy. Relationship problems start from array of of issues and are unique as your fingerprint. If you want to rekindle your sexual relationship with your partner start to build trust in yourself and with them. 

A Healthy relationship Starts with YOU

When your self esteem hinders your ability to have a healthy sex life, you are likely to feel you are missing a connection with your partner and possibly a dulled libido. Sexual intimacy is part of relationship wellness. The first step toward pulling excitement back into a long-term relationship really does start with your own relationship of self.  Developing an emotional connection with your own psyche will empower you in the bedroom. The sexiest thing you can wear is confidence. When you start small it will build. 

1. Self-Acceptance: Accept yourself as you are, including your body, desires, and preferences. Recognize that everyone has insecurities and imperfections, and it's okay to embrace them. Do not feel like you need to be all there, but start working on how you feel about yourself.  Work on your self esteem, worth and love for yourself. When we don't truly love ourselves it is almost impossible to be vulnerable and honest with another human being. It is only once we can appreciate and love ourselves that we can accept the love of another person. "Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What's important is the action. You don't have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow." -- Carrie Fisher

2. Explore Your Body: Take the time to explore your own body and become familiar with what feels good to you. Masturbation can be a valuable tool for self-discovery and building confidence in your sexual abilities. Also releasing those endorphins from self pleasure will relax you. Release that oxytocin and dopamine to relax you. 

3. Positive Affirmations: Practice positive self-talk and affirmations to counteract negative thoughts or insecurities. Remind yourself of your strengths, beauty, and worthiness of pleasure. 

4. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care practices that make you feel good about yourself, whether it's exercise, healthy eating, grooming, or engaging in activities that boost your mood and confidence. Self care can look different for different people. For some it might be a hard core work out and for others it might be a long hot bath in solitude and silence. If you are having a hard time 

5. Educate Yourself: Learn more about sexuality, pleasure, and relationships through books, articles, workshops, or therapy. Knowledge can empower you and help you feel more confident in your sexual encounters. Never be afraid to ask questions. If you don't ask, you'll never know. 

6. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that not every sexual encounter will be perfect, and that's okay. Embrace the imperfections and focus on enjoying the moment rather than striving for perfection. We don't need to climax or be perfect every time. Sometimes it is just being present. 

7. Seek Professional Help: If low self-esteem in the bedroom significantly impacts your well-being or relationships, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health and confidence issues. Make sure to check out some of the people I know who specialize in sexual therapy. 

Creating a Romantic Atmosphere Outside the Bedroom

Trying Something New Together

It does take effort to spend time together, and so much of our everyday humdrum life puts our relationship on the back burner. If physical intimacy seems really hard right now try new things outside of the bedroom. Creative activities together can shake up the banal and add a spark in your relationship.

1. Going on a hike in nature can provide you both with peace and quiet getting you both off of your devices and unplugged. Disconnected from the grid will reconnect you to one another.

2. Take a class together. What are somethings you can enjoy doing together? Cooking classes, dancing class, rock climbing, or woodworking class. 

3. Plan a date night together, set aside the time away from everyone else to just focus on one another. Quality time together will allow reconnection. 

4. Stay in but don't turn on the TV. Bust out a puzzle, large coloring book or read a book together. 

5. Cook a meal. Find something that you both love to eat and cook from scratch. This is building teamwork and you are creating something together.

How to Rekindle Your Bedroom Life

Tips for Bringing Back and Improve Intimacy

1. Just Do it. Nike has it right with that slogan and sometimes we need to just do the deed. If it has been awhile you might just feel out of practice and the idea of actually doing it seems time consuming, but guess what? You can just dive in for a quickie and wipe away that dry spell.

2. Get Neked - Strip down and hop in the shower together. Soak in the tub together. Bath one another.

3. Turn off your phone and cuddle. When we engage in intimate non sexual moments with our partner we can strengthen our connection to them

4. Ask questions, listen to what they say and ask them more questions about what they said. 

5. Hold hands and look into their eyes, and flirt. Physical affection and touch are the building blocks of intimacy. 

6. Get dressed up to get stripped down. 

7. Provide a random act of kindness with no expectation of reciprocation. This is a beautiful display of effort. When show we are willing to put in the work, provide something even as so small as a post note saying "you are wonderful" if shows you made a conscious effort toward them. 

8. Get a hotel - If you are in a living situation where you cannot fully yourself the way you would wish find a space you can do that.  Plus sometime a new environment reignite the spark. 

Spicing Things Up in the Bedroom

Here are some ways to bring back the spark and shake things up in the bedroom:
The basis of any strong relationship is communication, that goes for everything from organizing your schedules to rolling around between the sheets. The foundation of spicing things up starts with talking openly with your partner about your desires, fantasies, and what you might want to try. This can alleviate any potential awkwardness and ensure you're both comfortable and on the same page. 

Experiment with something new.  Introducing new activities can be exciting. Whether it's trying out new positions, experimenting with role play, or introducing toys, new experiences can rekindle passion. If it wasn't your cup of tea then you never have to do it again, but you never know until you try. 
Create the mood. Setting the right atmosphere can hugely impact your mood and desire. Consider dimming the lights, playing soft music, or lighting some scented candles to create a more sensual environment.

Watch a hot and steamy movie together. You don't have to get this is at the adult movie store, there are plenty available from your everyday streaming services. Reading or watching erotica together can help stimulate your imaginations and inspire you to try out some of the scenarios that excite you both. Check out my list of top 10 hot steamy movies. 

Keep a "fantasy box"...kind of like a suggestion box.  Write down fantasies or things you'd like to try on pieces of paper and place them in a box. Periodically, take turns drawing from the box and explore the selected fantasy together. 
Take it slow. This is the tease that pays off. Increasing the time and effort put into foreplay can greatly enhance the sexual experience. Explore each other’s bodies and discover new erogenous zones. We are so much more than our bits. The neck, the ear, the hip...what place has a slight tickle that feels oh so good? 

Read books, listen to podcasts, or watch videos together about enhancing sexual wellness and intimacy. Learning new techniques or ideas can be both educational and arousing.
Spontaneity can be very exciting. Surprise your partner with a new lingerie, a sexy note, or by initiating sex unexpectedly.
Remember, the goal is to have fun and feel closer to your partner. Be respectful of each other’s boundaries and always ensure consent. It’s okay to try something and then decide it’s not for you. The key is to keep an open mind and maintain an ongoing dialogue about what works for both of you in your relationship.

10 Creative and Empowering Plus Size Boudoir Photo Shoot Ideas to Embrace Your Body and Boost Confidence

All these empowered women slayed their boudoir photo session, and they are here to help you rock yours!

 Tip #1: Above all else, do this for YOU!

This is your time to feel beautiful, sensuous, and confident. Whether you are doing this for yourself, or as a gift for someone special, make sure that you are doing it for YOU first and foremost. The better you feel about yourself, the more amazing your photos will be! This session goes beyond the studio. When you embrace this as a celebration of you, it will elevate your confidence. When that feeling of confidence is steaming off your chest your partner is going to see that, and I promise that is the best gift of all. This seeps into other parts of your life as well. I have legit had women tell me the confidence this session brought them courage to go for a better job and ask for more money. This actually happened in 2022. Watching her face tell me her story was the most moving and powerful feeling. To see a woman who felt life was on the rocks and then 4 weeks later slay her interview and land a position 3 times better is all the proof I need to know this is more about you than anyone else. In the blog Boudoir Builds Self Esteem for Real I talk about things that have actually happened.

 Tip #2: Choosing the Type of Session and Style

There are many different types of boudoir sessions, and it's important to choose the right one for you. If you're not sure what you want, ask your photographer for recommendations. There are three main types of boudoir sessions: traditional, glamour, and artistic.

Traditional boudoir is more intimate and sensual, while glamour is more about showing off your saucy side. Artistic boudoir is a mix of both, and is a great option if you're not sure what you want. Whichever type of session you choose, make sure it's something that makes you feel comfortable and confident.

Tip #3: Choosing a Body Positive Boudoir Photographer

If you're considering a boudoir photo shoot, it's important to find a professional who is body positive. You should feel comfortable and confident in front of the camera, and the artist capturing you should make you feel like the elegant, gorgeous person that you are. Look for a photographer who celebrates all types of bodies and who will make you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin.

Tip #4: Choosing Lingerie & Outfits for Your Curvy Boudoir Session !

One of the most important aspects of preparing for your photo session is choosing the right lingerie and outfits. The right lingerie will not only make you feel empowered and confident, but it will also flatter your figure and highlight your best assets. When choosing intimate pieces for your boudoir session, keep in mind that less is often more. A simple, elegant bra and panty set or a lacy teddy can be much more effective than a flashy, over-the-top outfit. If you're not sure what to choose, consult with your photographer or ask for advice from a friend who's familiar with boudoir photography.

Tip #5: Hair, Waxing & Nail Appointments – No Spray Tanning!

It’s important to make sure your hair, waxing and nails are all done before your photo session. You want to look your best, and that includes having everything looking neat and tidy. However, don’t go overboard with the spray tanning! A little bit of color is fine, but you don’t want to look like you’ve been dipped in a vat of orange paint.

Book that nail appointment, and if you are curious what my go to nail colors are check out my blog post, 5 Best Nail Colors for your Boudoir Session.

Trim up the hedges ;) Unless you are au natural, I highly recommend trimming your front and yes even your backyard. You can go the lawnmower route, but if you plan ahead, go for the professional experience of a wax or sugaring.

I personally go for a sugar every 6 weeks, and it was the best choice for my life. I go see Aly at Sugar Plum in Bellevue. She is AMAZING and works with all bodies and individuals.

 Tip #6: Eat Before!

The morning session, make sure to eat something! You don't want to be feeling faint or dizzy during your shoot. Eat a protein rich breakfast. Also bring a little snack or light meal will do the trick and help you feel your best.

 Tip #7: Show Up with a Sense of Adventure

When you show up for your session, be sure to bring a sense of adventure! This is the time to try something new and have some fun. Be open to trying new poses and experimenting with different looks. Your photographer will guide you along the way and help you capture some amazing images. Still curious about how I pose curvy women? Go to this blog post on how I pose plus size .

Tip #8 Start planning what you will bring to your photoshoot

There are a few things to keep in mind when choosing what to wear for your boudoir experience. First, you want to choose something that makes you feel confident and beautiful. Second, you want to choose something that flatters your figure, and pick things that hug you gently. This means, no babydolls and no spanx. The babydoll is essentially the mumu of lingerie. I don't want you in a tent and I don't want you to be so confined you cannot move. Lastly, you want to choose something that is comfortable to wear. What is in-between piece of lingerie that is perfect? It is the bodysuit! Trust me on this one. It is my job to elongate you and show off your curves on the right places.

With those things in mind, here are a few suggestions for what to wear for your saucy photoshoot:

A form-fitting dress or top and bottom combo. This will show off your curves and give you a sexy, confident look.

A lacy lingerie set. This will accentuate your curves and make you feel like a sultry goddess.

A flowing robe that we use as a prop. This will drape over your curves in a flattering way and make you feel both comfortable and beautiful.

Whatever you choose to wear, make sure it makes you feel sexy and confident.That is the most important thing! If you have any questions

This is a safe place where bold women come, where self-love is encouraged, nurtured and celebrated. In this studio we bring out your inner goddess and allow you to indulge in some well-deserved self-love. Every body is beautiful and it is a good thing to show body. Embrace your curves.

The most important thing to remember is choosing a professional boudoir photographer whose studio is a safe place for all different body types to embrace their contours.