Rekindle Intimacy: Boosting Body Confidence in the Bedroom

Start Feeling Closeness with Your Partner and Yourself

For many couples intimacy isn't easy. Relationship problems start from array of of issues and are unique as your fingerprint. If you want to rekindle your sexual relationship with your partner start to build trust in yourself and with them. 

A Healthy relationship Starts with YOU

When your self esteem hinders your ability to have a healthy sex life, you are likely to feel you are missing a connection with your partner and possibly a dulled libido. Sexual intimacy is part of relationship wellness. The first step toward pulling excitement back into a long-term relationship really does start with your own relationship of self.  Developing an emotional connection with your own psyche will empower you in the bedroom. The sexiest thing you can wear is confidence. When you start small it will build. 

1. Self-Acceptance: Accept yourself as you are, including your body, desires, and preferences. Recognize that everyone has insecurities and imperfections, and it's okay to embrace them. Do not feel like you need to be all there, but start working on how you feel about yourself.  Work on your self esteem, worth and love for yourself. When we don't truly love ourselves it is almost impossible to be vulnerable and honest with another human being. It is only once we can appreciate and love ourselves that we can accept the love of another person. "Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What's important is the action. You don't have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow." -- Carrie Fisher

2. Explore Your Body: Take the time to explore your own body and become familiar with what feels good to you. Masturbation can be a valuable tool for self-discovery and building confidence in your sexual abilities. Also releasing those endorphins from self pleasure will relax you. Release that oxytocin and dopamine to relax you. 

3. Positive Affirmations: Practice positive self-talk and affirmations to counteract negative thoughts or insecurities. Remind yourself of your strengths, beauty, and worthiness of pleasure. 

4. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care practices that make you feel good about yourself, whether it's exercise, healthy eating, grooming, or engaging in activities that boost your mood and confidence. Self care can look different for different people. For some it might be a hard core work out and for others it might be a long hot bath in solitude and silence. If you are having a hard time 

5. Educate Yourself: Learn more about sexuality, pleasure, and relationships through books, articles, workshops, or therapy. Knowledge can empower you and help you feel more confident in your sexual encounters. Never be afraid to ask questions. If you don't ask, you'll never know. 

6. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that not every sexual encounter will be perfect, and that's okay. Embrace the imperfections and focus on enjoying the moment rather than striving for perfection. We don't need to climax or be perfect every time. Sometimes it is just being present. 

7. Seek Professional Help: If low self-esteem in the bedroom significantly impacts your well-being or relationships, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health and confidence issues. Make sure to check out some of the people I know who specialize in sexual therapy. 

Creating a Romantic Atmosphere Outside the Bedroom

Trying Something New Together

It does take effort to spend time together, and so much of our everyday humdrum life puts our relationship on the back burner. If physical intimacy seems really hard right now try new things outside of the bedroom. Creative activities together can shake up the banal and add a spark in your relationship.

1. Going on a hike in nature can provide you both with peace and quiet getting you both off of your devices and unplugged. Disconnected from the grid will reconnect you to one another.

2. Take a class together. What are somethings you can enjoy doing together? Cooking classes, dancing class, rock climbing, or woodworking class. 

3. Plan a date night together, set aside the time away from everyone else to just focus on one another. Quality time together will allow reconnection. 

4. Stay in but don't turn on the TV. Bust out a puzzle, large coloring book or read a book together. 

5. Cook a meal. Find something that you both love to eat and cook from scratch. This is building teamwork and you are creating something together.

How to Rekindle Your Bedroom Life

Tips for Bringing Back and Improve Intimacy

1. Just Do it. Nike has it right with that slogan and sometimes we need to just do the deed. If it has been awhile you might just feel out of practice and the idea of actually doing it seems time consuming, but guess what? You can just dive in for a quickie and wipe away that dry spell.

2. Get Neked - Strip down and hop in the shower together. Soak in the tub together. Bath one another.

3. Turn off your phone and cuddle. When we engage in intimate non sexual moments with our partner we can strengthen our connection to them

4. Ask questions, listen to what they say and ask them more questions about what they said. 

5. Hold hands and look into their eyes, and flirt. Physical affection and touch are the building blocks of intimacy. 

6. Get dressed up to get stripped down. 

7. Provide a random act of kindness with no expectation of reciprocation. This is a beautiful display of effort. When show we are willing to put in the work, provide something even as so small as a post note saying "you are wonderful" if shows you made a conscious effort toward them. 

8. Get a hotel - If you are in a living situation where you cannot fully yourself the way you would wish find a space you can do that.  Plus sometime a new environment reignite the spark. 

Spicing Things Up in the Bedroom

Here are some ways to bring back the spark and shake things up in the bedroom:
The basis of any strong relationship is communication, that goes for everything from organizing your schedules to rolling around between the sheets. The foundation of spicing things up starts with talking openly with your partner about your desires, fantasies, and what you might want to try. This can alleviate any potential awkwardness and ensure you're both comfortable and on the same page. 

Experiment with something new.  Introducing new activities can be exciting. Whether it's trying out new positions, experimenting with role play, or introducing toys, new experiences can rekindle passion. If it wasn't your cup of tea then you never have to do it again, but you never know until you try. 
Create the mood. Setting the right atmosphere can hugely impact your mood and desire. Consider dimming the lights, playing soft music, or lighting some scented candles to create a more sensual environment.

Watch a hot and steamy movie together. You don't have to get this is at the adult movie store, there are plenty available from your everyday streaming services. Reading or watching erotica together can help stimulate your imaginations and inspire you to try out some of the scenarios that excite you both. Check out my list of top 10 hot steamy movies. 

Keep a "fantasy box"...kind of like a suggestion box.  Write down fantasies or things you'd like to try on pieces of paper and place them in a box. Periodically, take turns drawing from the box and explore the selected fantasy together. 
Take it slow. This is the tease that pays off. Increasing the time and effort put into foreplay can greatly enhance the sexual experience. Explore each other’s bodies and discover new erogenous zones. We are so much more than our bits. The neck, the ear, the hip...what place has a slight tickle that feels oh so good? 

Read books, listen to podcasts, or watch videos together about enhancing sexual wellness and intimacy. Learning new techniques or ideas can be both educational and arousing.
Spontaneity can be very exciting. Surprise your partner with a new lingerie, a sexy note, or by initiating sex unexpectedly.
Remember, the goal is to have fun and feel closer to your partner. Be respectful of each other’s boundaries and always ensure consent. It’s okay to try something and then decide it’s not for you. The key is to keep an open mind and maintain an ongoing dialogue about what works for both of you in your relationship.

Pioneer Square Boudoir Studio

Pioneer Square Boudoir Studio - Light Space

We are located right near the water, a quick walk off the ferry if you are coming from the peninsula. It is actually pretty easy to get to no matter where you are traveling from. We are right off of the I-5 and I-90 interchange.

The studio is actually two different spaces and you can choose which style best suits you.

One of the spaces is light bright white, very romantic. Bridal themed sessions are popular for this space. Since it is a simple yet elegant space it is great for anyone.

Pioneer Boudoir Studio - Dark Sultry Space

Our other studio space located in the same building is great for those who are into a more mysterious and sultry style. Many hours have been spent in here to create a unique one of a kind experience.

17 Unique Boudoir Theme Ideas

17 Unique Boudoir Theme Ideas

Maybe you have already done a boudoir session, or maybe you just want something totally unique and different. I have some very unique boudoir theme ideas that are sure to get your creative juices flowing. If there is one thing I love, it’s trying out new things. If you like what you see here, make sure to reach out by filing the contact form at the bottom of this page.

1. Film Noir

2. Maternity

If you are planning on having a child, this is a must. There is nothing else that compares to this session. Make sure to reach out around the very beginning of your second trimester. We do book out far in advance and you want to insure that we will have availability in that sweet spot. Check out our page that talks about the baby bump.

3. Bring your honey for a couples session

4. Food

5. Erotic

Erotic sessions are stepping out of the box, or maybe into one. I guess it all depends on your vision. Regardless of what you might want to do, these session are handled with the utmost respect and consent. If you are curious about how they go please reach out. Be sure to read this brief explanation of erotica.

6. Outdoors

Outdoor scenes are a lot of fun, and definitely require planning. We do offer a couple of destination shoots though out the year. If something like the desert, a beach or a tropical waterfall is floating around, reach out and ask when and where we will be.

7. Themed

8, In the Sheets

9. Body silhouette

10. Poolside

11. Light Play

Light play is the newest edition of super creative and abstract photography. I am really digging it. This does require an extra level of patience, but in the end it truly does feel like a painting.

12. After Dark

These are the perfect session for that individual who wants a super moody and alternative edgy style. We tend to offer these in the winter months.

13. Shower scene

14. Angel Wings

15. Vntage Playboy

16. Calendar

Picking your themes based on the month is a great way to get more ideas.

17. Fine Art Nudes

Couples Boudoir Photos: Stunning Gallery of Intimate Connections

Couples Boudoir Photos: Stunning Gallery of Intimate Connections

Whether you have been six months or sixteen years, there is nothing more intense and hot than celebrating that passion with a boudoir shoot. Keep that steam going with a shoot that will sent a jolt of electricity through the two of you.

If these get your mind running wild, then reach out and we can talk about setting up a session with you and your partner that is equally if not more spicy as these are. Make sure to also take a peek at this spicy hot blog of couples.

7 Key Tips for Beautiful Plus Size Boudoir Photos and 5 Flattering Poses

All these empowered women slayed their boudoir photo session

 Tip #1: Above all else, do this for YOU!

This is your time to feel beautiful, sensuous, and confident. Whether you are doing this for yourself, or as a gift for someone special, make sure that you are doing it for YOU first and foremost. The better you feel about yourself, the more amazing your photos will be! This session goes beyond the studio. When you embrace this as a celebration of you, it will elevate your confidence. When that feeling of confidence is steaming off your chest your partner is going to see that, and I promise that is the best gift of all. This seeps into other parts of your life as well. I have legit had women tell me the confidence this session brought them courage to go for a better job and ask for more money. This actually happened in 2022. Watching her face tell me her story was the most moving and powerful feeling. To see a woman who felt life was on the rocks and then 4 weeks later slay her interview and land a position 3 times better is all the proof I need to know this is more about you than anyone else. In the blog Boudoir Builds Self Esteem for Real I talk about things that have actually happened.

 Tip #2: Choosing the Type of Session and Style

There are many different types of boudoir sessions, and it's important to choose the right one for you. If you're not sure what you want, ask your photographer for recommendations. There are three main types of boudoir sessions: traditional, glamour, and artistic.

Traditional boudoir is more intimate and sensual, while glamour is more about showing off your saucy side. Artistic boudoir is a mix of both, and is a great option if you're not sure what you want. Whichever type of session you choose, make sure it's something that makes you feel comfortable and confident.

Tip #3: Choosing a Body Positive Boudoir Photographer

If you're considering a boudoir photo shoot, it's important to find a professional who is body positive. You should feel comfortable and confident in front of the camera, and the artist capturing you should make you feel like the elegant, gorgeous person that you are. Look for a photographer who celebrates all types of bodies and who will make you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin.

Tip #4: Choosing Lingerie & Outfits for Your Curvy Boudoir Session !

One of the most important aspects of preparing for your photo session is choosing the right lingerie and outfits. The right lingerie will not only make you feel empowered and confident, but it will also flatter your figure and highlight your best assets. When choosing intimate pieces for your boudoir session, keep in mind that less is often more. A simple, elegant bra and panty set or a lacy teddy can be much more effective than a flashy, over-the-top outfit. If you're not sure what to choose, consult with your photographer or ask for advice from a friend who's familiar with boudoir photography.

Tip #5: Hair, Waxing & Nail Appointments – No Spray Tanning!

It’s important to make sure your hair, waxing and nails are all done before your photo session. You want to look your best, and that includes having everything looking neat and tidy. However, don’t go overboard with the spray tanning! A little bit of color is fine, but you don’t want to look like you’ve been dipped in a vat of orange paint.

Book that nail appointment, and if you are curious what my go to nail colors are check out my blog post, 5 Best Nail Colors for your Boudoir Session.

Trim up the hedges ;) Unless you are au natural, I highly recommend trimming your front and yes even your backyard. You can go the lawnmower route, but if you plan ahead, go for the professional experience of a wax or sugaring.

I personally go for a sugar every 6 weeks, and it was the best choice for my life. I go see Aly at Sugar Plum in Bellevue. She is AMAZING and works with all bodies and individuals.

 Tip #6: Eat Before!

The morning session, make sure to eat something! You don't want to be feeling faint or dizzy during your shoot. Eat a protein rich breakfast. Also bring a little snack or light meal will do the trick and help you feel your best.

 Tip #7: Show Up with a Sense of Adventure

When you show up for your session, be sure to bring a sense of adventure! This is the time to try something new and have some fun. Be open to trying new poses and experimenting with different looks. Your photographer will guide you along the way and help you capture some amazing images. Still curious about how I pose curvy women? Go to this blog post on how I pose plus size .

What Should I Wear for My Saucy Photoshoot?

There are a few things to keep in mind when choosing what to wear for your boudoir experience. First, you want to choose something that makes you feel confident and beautiful. Second, you want to choose something that flatters your figure, and pick things that hug you gently. This means, no babydolls and no spanx. The babydoll is essentially the mumu of lingerie. I don't want you in a tent and I don't want you to be so confined you cannot move. Lastly, you want to choose something that is comfortable to wear. What is in-between piece of lingerie that is perfect? It is the bodysuit! Trust me on this one. It is my job to elongate you and show off your curves on the right places.

With those things in mind, here are a few suggestions for what to wear for your saucy photoshoot:

A form-fitting dress or top and bottom combo. This will show off your curves and give you a sexy, confident look.

A lacy lingerie set. This will accentuate your curves and make you feel like a sultry goddess.

A flowing robe that we use as a prop. This will drape over your curves in a flattering way and make you feel both comfortable and beautiful.

Whatever you choose to wear, make sure it makes you feel sexy and confident.That is the most important thing! If you have any questions

This is a safe place where bold women come, where self-love is encouraged, nurtured and celebrated. In this studio we bring out your inner goddess and allow you to indulge in some well-deserved self-love. Every body is beautiful and it is a good thing to show body. Embrace your curves.

The most important thing to remember is choosing a professional boudoir photographer whose studio is a safe place for all different body types to embrace their contours. 

Show off Sexy Short Hair Boudoir Shoot - Ms V

Show off Sexy Short Hair Boudoir Shoot - Ms V

Short hair is bold

Short hair challenges societal norms that dictate women must have long, flowing locks to be seen as feminine and attractive. With a short haircut, women take control of their appearance and refuse to conform to gender stereotypes. Short hair also provides a sense of empowerment. It takes a lot of conviction to chop off one's hair, and it signals that the woman is unafraid to be seen and heard. It is a statement that the woman is comfortable in her own skin and is not afraid to stand out from a crowd. Finally, divorcing long hair is a bold choice. It is often seen as a rebellious hairstyle that defies convention. It shows that the woman is not afraid to take risks and try new things. In a world where conformity is often rewarded, short hair is a refreshing departure from the norm.

Short hair is Saucy

Short haircuts allows the neck to be showcased, the line that travels from the back of the ear, swoops down the neck to the shoulder. It is a curve that we often overlook, but is sensual and provocative. A short cut also accentuates the features of the face, bringing attention to the eyes, cheekbones, and jawline. It can make a statement of boldness, confidence, and independence. Plus, it's easy to manage and style, making it a practical choice for busy individuals. Overall, short style  offers versatility and a sense of empowerment that can be both liberating and sensual.  

Short hair is liberating

Short hair says tells the world you have more important things to do.  Your pixie cut also screams confidence and self-assurance. You know who you are and you don't need to hide behind a full head of hair to prove it. You embrace your features, flaws and all, and strut with a certain boldness that turns heads wherever you go. Chopping it all off also represents a sense of adventure and change. It is a daring move to chop off your locks and sport a trendy new look. You are willing to take risks and try new things, which makes you a dynamic and exciting person to be around. Overall, your short locks exudes power, confidence, and independence. You are a force to be reckoned with and your hair is just the cherry on top of all that greatness. Keep rocking that pixie cut and showing the world what a boss lady you truly are! unapologetic 

Shake Up that short hair with Boudoir 

When Ms V came in for her session, I saw how that bare neckline really gave light to the most amazing structure and swoop  from her ear down her shoulder. If she didn't know already I saw it immediately. You know when you know. Looking at her I felt this vintage Madonna circa True Blue, Papa don't preach and Vogue all in one. Madonna was always that confident powerhouse to me as a young woman. She was always that unapologetic icon star that said "Don't be afraid!"  She showed women you could celebrate your sexy and stun the world without longer hair. 

There are times a woman walks in the door and swear she has no idea what she has. Ms V is humble, not one to be a show off, but hot damn if I wasn't going to show her that she has 100% ability to SHOW OFF. 

Get in touch with that in queen and fall in love with her power though boudoir photography.  Show off that cropped cut, be provocative and empowered. Stomp on societal norms and give me your best Vogue. 

If you are interested in having a boudoir session in our studio, please reach out. Our boudoir studio guide you through the nervous feeling and we help you shine. Let me help you feel gorgeous, fearless and secure in your own skin.

15 Couples Boudoir That Embody Intimacy to the Core

Intimacy Feels So Good

Get Ready to get close and have all the feels.

We believe that intimate photography should be about more than just the physical act of sex. It should be about capturing the love, dedication, commitment, and fantasies that couples share with one another. We think that's pretty darn sexy! Providing an open space of acceptance allows couples to unfold into one another, and their voice of intimacy is reflected into the images that are documented.

Trust in the Process of your Photographer

The process of a couples boudoir photo shoot is not much different than that of a solo boudoir session. We prepare you in much of the same way with consultations around self-care, lingerie, wardrobe, the day of photography experience and final art and albums that are offered. During your consultation we go over the timeline from when you book to your actual shoot in the studio, all the way to your order and reveal session. A couples boudoir session can be as modest or and sensual as you want it to be. If you are looking for something more erotic or kinky we can talk about that option as well. When it comes to privacy, that is up to you. Some of our couples opt to showcase their images on the website and other who are more private opt to keep them to themselves. It is 100% up to you how who sees your photos.

Who does a couples session?

Anyone who wants to spice things up, celebrate a milestone, design a hot steamy unique date night or just do something special with their loved one. I have had couples come in for 1 year, 7 year, 10 year and 25 year anniversaries. I have had couples who have been beaten down by the toddler between them in their bed. Couples who found themselves after their kids moved out. A parter who wanted to shower her lover in feeling like the diva she sees her as. Many couples just want to feel sexy with one another and the beautiful artwork created is a way to show that always.

What, you've never done a couples boudoir session before?

Rest assured you are not the only one. All of these couples here tried something new and all of them would definitely recommend this photoshoot. It is totally natural to feel awkward at first, I mean you are taking your bedroom experience and bringing it into a boudoir studio.  You are my only session of the day, so their is no need for us to rush through anything. I work at your pace, which helps you feel comfortable.  Through our process we get to know one another and I start you off easy with casual playful prompts that bring our your genuine facial expressions. As we progress through the day you, will feel completely comfortable and the entire experience will fill you with a adventurous spark igniting a flame that pulls you both closer together.

How much clothing do we have to take off during couples boudoir photography?

How much clothing you wear is up to you. I have couples bring outfits, lingerie, harnesses and even just be nude. I want you to feel comfortable about being passionate and expressing your feelings with your spouse. If that means you are covered that it totally fine. Remember this boudoir shoot is your boudoir experience. Like all things your consent it the number one aspect. When you feel at ease your images show that, and my job to make you feel that way.

Your last experience you felt weird being posed ?

We've heard that before, and it is okay. Most of the time couples are referencing their engagement shoot, wedding day or headshots. It is not uncommon to feel like you were put on display. A boudoir photography session is way more private, just the three of us. The way I pose is more natural and less contrived. I start you off with a fluid prompts that you would probably find yourselves doing anyway at home. We are in a private setting, and no one is watching. I will always make sure you look your best, and the wonderful part if it is, this photo session is about the candid moments of affection between the two of you.

We are different, how do you feel about that

All people are welcome in this space. I feel we are all unique yet the same. We are all humans, and we all express ourselves differently. When you share your story with me know that I am open to it as long as all people are consenting adults of sound mind.

Are you ready to learn more or get your steamy session on the calendar? Reach out to us and we will get you started. Even if you just have questions, thats fine too. I get that not everyone is ready to take the plunge, but I do promise you its not that scary. I help make it pretty darn easy and super natural. Scroll down to inquire today.

Best Non Lingerie Items for a Boudoir Session

Here are 10 of the best non lingerie items for your intimate boudoir photo shoot

1. Slouchy Sweater

2. Cape with hood or robe

3. White Tank Top

4. Petticoat skirt

5. Party dress

6. Jackets

7. Just you in the nude

Defining your Unique Self Image and Beauty

Defining Your Unique Self Image and Beauty

Boudoir photography is a fantastic way to celebrate your unique self image and beauty. Whether you are looking to capture a special moment in time, or simply want to create a beautiful and unique art collection of images, boudoir photography is the perfect way to do so.

Boudoir photography allows you to express yourself in a variety of ways, whether it be through sensual and sexy poses, or more demure, romantic and intimate shots. No matter what your style is, boudoir photography is all about celebrating YOU and your unique beauty.

So if you are looking for a fun and empowering experience that will leave you with gorgeous images to cherish for a lifetime, look no further than boudoir photography!

It's okay to be nervous about doing a boudoir photoshoot

It's okay to be nervous about doing a boudoir photoshoot. In fact, it's perfectly normal! Boudoir photography is intimate and personal, and it can be daunting to bare yourself (literally and figuratively) in front of a camera. But remember that your photographer is a professional who is there to help you feel comfortable and look your best. Trust them, relax, and enjoy the experience. You'll end up with beautiful, empowering photos that you'll cherish forever.

7 Questions to Ask Your Boudoir Photographer

While I cannot answer for other photographers I can answer some of these questions about myself for you

1. What experience do you have with boudoir photography?

I started photography at a young age, it ran in the family. By high school, I was doing photoshoots with my girlfriends, and it was affirming then. In my mid twenties I took photography seriously and began my career. I started with weddings and naturally worked with a bunch of women. Women were always nervous about how they were going to look. I reassured them with the right pose no matter what they would be stunning. I came into boudoir because not every person has a wedding, and honestly it isn't just brides that need to be lifted and empowered. There are people of all walks of life that boudoir and intimate photography helps, and I wanted to serve everyone. As a woman and a professional boudoir photographer my goal is to put all clients at ease. It is through a safe space that clients may blossom and we create stunning boudoir photography.

2. What style of boudoir photography do you specialize in?

The loaded question of what style is my style. First off, I am always learning, improving, expanding my style. I love the romantic, light airy, demure, elegant and beautiful boudoir styles. I also really dig the edgy, dark, moody sultry saucy and stunning boudoir styles. I have two studio spaces that I love to design. Color is so fascinating to me and the second you step into my dark and moody space you will see where I express my artistic passion for color.

3. What is your process for a boudoir photo shoot?

We will hop on a consultation call and go over a brief explanation of the process, and you can ask any questions you have. In the consultation we talk about our professional hair and make up services, wardrobe client closet, lingerie guide, posing tips, post-processing methods and options for wall art, albums or digital images.

4. How do you make your subjects feel comfortable during a shoot?

When you arrive, you are going to realize I am just like you. I will be in my shooting attire, comfortable and no make up face. You are going to tell me more about yourself as you pull out all the amazing pieces you have brought with you. Then you are going to get comfortable with hair and make up, she will get you relaxed, ready and absolutely gorgeous! We will connect and that is going to help you feel as comfortable as possible during a shoot. We are an open environment and really do work with every type of person under the sun. We embrace uniqueness and diversity, so show me what you got! When we start shooting I will provide you with a couple of tips and really I will be guiding your every pose. I also make sure to let them know what I'm going to be doing during the shoot so they know what to expect. I find that if my subjects are comfortable and relaxed, they tend to look their best in the photos. The most successful boudoir photographers are the ones that listen and allow a safe space for self expression.

5. What should I expect during and after the photo shoot?

We get started in the morning and you will be finished early afternoon. Professional hair and makeup takes anywhere from an hour to an hour and a half. The session itself lasts about 2 hours. I use a combination of natural light and artificial light, mostly it depends on your style. The shoot is so much about you that I never plan YOUR shoot before I meet you. I want your photo session to be a reflection of you.

6. How long will it take to receive my photos?

Did you know that great boudoir photos start the day of your shoot. You are the main part of the boudoir process, because it is all about you. Most of the magic is the efforts of your make up artist, myself and YOU. After we do your boudoir photo session, you will return to the studio in 10-14 days following your shoot. Depending on how you want to display your photos is the next step. That process can be take more time depending on your vision.

7. Do you offer retouching services?

Yes, we offer retouching services included with every session. We can remove blemishes, scars, wrinkles, and other imperfections from your photos. We generally try to keep you natural and in the decade you are in. I do not believe in altering your body, and I promise through posing you will be amazing how incredible your body is.

7 Reason people tell me why they are not ready for a boudoir shoot

There are a few reasons why people tell me they are not ready for a boudoir shoot.

1. The most common reason people say they are not ready is they may feel like they need to lose weight or get in better shape before they can feel comfortable in front of the camera. I can tell you that women of all sizes, shapes and heights come into the studio. Some have accomplished their objective, and others have just begun. Everyone single person has a unique perception of themselves and no one person is the same. We would be awfully boring if we all looked the same, and frankly there would be no purpose for art. Humans are the most diverse species and we should celebrate our bodies and our physical state at every stage. Every pose for boudoir I use accentuates your best features and assets.

2. Secondly, they may be concerned about how their skin looks and whether or not they need to get a professional makeup artist. Blemishes are part of life, and so are scars and stretch marks. I have a bunch of scars and stretch marks, and some how in my mid 40's I still struggle with break outs. The best part of seeing a professional photographer is that we also know high end retouching that will look more natural. The majority of us need some form of skin editing. These dslr cameras and zoom lenses pick up on every detail. While these told are exceptional for luxury boudoir photography, post processing and skin retouching are standard in the process as well. You will always be you, I'll just polish your boudoir images to be the best version while still maintaining the most natural look.

3. A common obstacle I hear is about wardrobe. Many women feel daunted by the thought of lingerie shopping, and rightfully so, not all bodies are the same and not all lingerie is the same. How many times have you stepped into the dressing room and been disappointed with everything. It happens to all of us. I am going to help you pick out items that will look amazing on you, and the boudoir poses that I put you in along with the perfect garment are tried-and-true methods. You are not the only one that fears their midsection.

4. Additionally, many of us feel anxious about our bodies and how it will look in the photos. "I never look good in photos" Okay, fair enough, except one thing....the camera that usually is being used is on a phone. Phone cameras are not forgiving, and neither are point and shoots. The camera on the phone uses a wide-angle lens, and wide-angle shots are meant for landscapes not portraits. Without getting into the physics and science of what that means, the quick answer is that lens is not meant for portraits. I use some very expensive lenses that are specifically meant for taking portraits that flatter people.

5. There are times when I hear individuals fear they will judged by others for doing a boudoir session. Well isn't that the case with everything? I have been judged a million times over and only once in front of an actual judge...ehh emmm....my divorce. I have been judged from kindergarten all the way since yesterday. People love to judge us and you know what, so what. You are you and the only life you have is this one. There will be people that judge you, but they are just jealous that you have to power and gumption to step out and step up. Also you don't have to scream it at the top of the mountain if you don't want to. Some blast it on the evening news and others keep this to themselves forever. I fall in the middle with mine.

6. A super common reason I am told that a person is not ready is they have never done anything like this before and feel scared and intimidated by the whole process. Most people have not done it. You might have done some selfies at home, but to bare all and expose your sensuality with a stranger, well most people have not had that boudoir experience. Now let me ask you, when was the last time you had a professional photograph taken of you? When was the last time you had professional hair and makeup services done on you? Really there is not much to be afraid of, you get pampered and transformed into fine art.

7. Finally, they may simply not be in the right headspace for a boudoir shoot at this time in their life. Here is something that no matter what I say, if you are not in the right space then you are not in the right space. I still encourage you to search for the love and passion within to celebrate your body. You can start with simple self love daily affirmations and actions to lift your self image up. When you sign up for our newsletter we talk about self love and ways to treat yourself with respect and honor your body.

Let Boudoir Empower you in 2022

In 2022, let boudoir lift you. Boudoir is a French word meaning "a woman's private room." It is a place where a woman can feel comfortable and beautiful in her own skin. In a world that is constantly telling women to change their appearance, boudoir is a place where you can be yourself. It is a place of self-love and self-acceptance. When you love and accept yourself, you are powerful. You are able to take on the world with confidence. Let this be the year to let boudoir strengthen you. Let it be your place of refuge and strength. Let it be the place where you learn to love yourself unconditionally. Don't hesitate another minute, book your boudoir shoot today!

What if lingerie is not my jam?

Feeling beautiful doesn’t not require lingerie. You can totally celebrate your body and be modest at the same time. To take the bedroom out of boudoir, I call these beauty sessions.

A beauty session is one that celebrates your beauty and your body while being showcased in your favorite attire. Celebrate and express yourself how you want to.